Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Help a sister out!

If you were given the opportunity to speak to a group of young girls about how to use social media in a positive and safe way, what would you say? I'm not asking out of pure curiousity. I'm actually asking because I need your help. You see, I've been asked to be the keynote speaker at a girls' empowerment conference in May, and they've asked that I talk to the girls about my approach to social media, whether that be for my job or my personal life or my blog.

So, I thought, who better to ask for advice than the social media experts out there. 
So tell me, ladies, what would you say? What advice would you give?


  1. This isn't really a "yay social media!" thing, but I think it's important to stress that with social media, you never know who sees the things you post and you need to be careful because there are absolutely crazies out there that could take advantage of the information you share. Because kids today are growing up in this age of "sharing everything," it's important to take a step back and evaluate what you're posting and who can see it, and consider what you — and your family members — are comfortable with sharing and what should stay private. The Internet is forever, and you can't take something back!

  2. #1. Proper grammar goes a long way.

    #2. Also, periods and commas are REALLY HELPFUL, especially when you are trying to COMMUNICATE SOMETHING IMPORTANT! Oh wow...that was a tough email to read.

  3. Woah, that sounds fun/intense... funtense? Yes, I would definitely stress that posting any.THING means you have now given access to it. Do you want to be remembered for that tweet - or have the picture come back to haunt you...? Also, don't use media as the reflux outlet for what you're feeling in the *moment*... use a friend, or a diary. You may regret what was said in the heat of frustration/anger/etc.... but now it's all over the web!
    Yeah.. good luck with that Nicole - you'll rock it I'm sure.
    needle and nest

  4. Tell them they should only post 1 of the 5 things they're thinking about posting, and if it's negative, complaining, or could be seen as rude, to reconsider. And to refrain from posting about their personal / family life or their job. Over sharing makes you appear naive, frivolous, and attention seeking.

  5. I guess this is the Anonymous side of me coming out, but I would say, not to be afraid of sharing online. There are ways to keep your anonymity when online, and you have to be really good at privacy/security to do so, but there are always going to be people who can 'out' you- you may be the best hacker in your school but in the big wide world there are people better.

    I don't think we should discourage kids to share, but rather focus on the Content of what they are sharing. i.e. if they start a blog and love to write about makeup or travel or books, that's brilliant and their passions should be encouraged. But if they're snapchatting their crush naked pics or doing Tumbr topless Tuesday, then that's a lot different.

    Really interesting topic though!

  6. Most important to remember is that everyone on the internet is a person. A real person with feelings and dreams and parents and siblings and friends. Anonymity hurts our empathy and that's a huge problem.

    Also, once things are posted to the internet, they're forever! Think about how your re-post, or even just liking a post, with a racist remark might hurt your job potential, or the feelings of a friend you didn't consider before!

    Good luck, I would be really interested in hearing your views!

  7. A lot of the things I would say have already been mentioned.

    1) Anyone could see it, so be very careful about what you say.

    2) No negative talk directed at someone or your job. It's okay to be unhappy sometimes, but your boss or friend could see a post that is directly about them.

    3) As a rule, try to keep it positive or thought-provoking (or funny) and don't post EVERY SINGLE THING. Lots of young girls and boys post the "selfie" every day. It's asking for attention. The less you share the more others can be curious.

    Try to cultivate meaning to what you post and try to be positive.

  8. Its not really advice; but social media gives you a chance to find those people who have the exact same tastes/hobby/loves as you, no matter how weird... and that can feel awesome! Being someone from a small town where I stud out loads it gave me more confidence to be me.

    In the same way, there are those people out there that have the exact oppressive tastes as you, and that can be great; to expand your world. But it can suck, because those people can be mean. But, its the internet, its easy to drown out those people.

  9. I would stress that it's always safest to have a private profile, that way you can choose who get's to see your stuff. And if you choose to have a public instagram, TURN OFF YOUR LOCATION FINDER. It makes me sick to my stomach to see 13 year old girls with thousands of followers (that they have no idea who they really are) post pictures from their house...and let google maps tell everyone where that is. Terrifying.

  10. First off congratulations! I think you are going to do a great job with your talk!

    Secondly I think I would talk about how things we share on the internet are there forever, even if we try to take stuff down. I'm talking about tweets, photos, the works. There are just regular people who have tweeted some pretty awful things that are now forever tied to their name, even though they have deleted the original. I think young kids today sometimes don't get that.

    Anyways that's my suggestion, cannot wait to see hear how the speech goes!

  11. This morning I watched a video of my teenaged cousin chugging vodka straight from the bottle in a race against her fried who was doing the same. And all I could think of the whole time I was watching that video was that I knew she was going to get loads of "attention comments" and who doesn't love attention?! But it's misdirected, it's the wrong kind. I know that we all do crazy stupid things as teenagers, but at least all of my fun only lives forever in my memory. Teenagers are so concerned with image and instant gratification, and I get that, but (broken record here) the internet is forever! And that video of you doing naked shots or whatever might be totally hilarious at 18, but less and less so as the years go by, and you have to get a job, and potentially be a good example to your own kids.

    That probably makes no sense. I wrote it over the course of a couple of hours...blargh.

    On the flip side, social media can be a great way to connect with other like-minded people! It is what you make of it!